Parenting vs. Pestering: Keeping Teens Drug-Free
A “Posh” Life
If you are an entertainment junkie as I am, you might have seen or heard about Demi Moore’s fateful night a few weeks ago. According to a released 911 call and several reports, the gorgeous movie star allegedly smoked an unknown “but legal” substance that caused her to go into convulsions. When asked about the report on a red carpet somewhere where I was not and probably will never be (but I digress), George Clooney chastised the media release of the 911 tapes for going too far and prying into a human’s private life. But I disagree with him. (Yes Mr. Clooney even with all your suave, debonair, handsomeness I won’t be swayed when it comes to this. But I could be swayed in other ways………….) Um…WHERE was I? OH Demi! Yes.
Apparently the substance that Demi was smoking at a party (that her daughter was also attending I might add), was called “POSH.” When Giuliana Rancic, E’s reporter, uttered this word my husband, who usually is uber bored with my E Entertainment News obsession, sat straight up and began shaking his head in a disgusted way vigorously. The attention to the story puzzled me and I assumed it was because, well, Demi Moore in all her brunetty-rockin-body way is EXACTLY his type. But it wasn’t that at all…it was that he somehow agreed with me in my disagreement with Clooney’s protestation.
“I am glad that they released the tapes.” He uttered.
“You are?” I asked incredulously.
“Yes, it is about time that Posh gets some kind of media attention. You have no idea how rampant it is at school and since it is legal there isn’t really anything administrators can do about it.”
My husband is currently interning as a vice principal in a local middle school. Recently a student was caught smoking this “Posh” substance in the bathroom. When he was confronted about it in the main office, the red-eyed student was higher than a kite. He couldn’t contain his laughing, nor was he able to make eye contact with anyone or any object. Being as high as he was actually turned out to be an advantage to my husband and the other administrators because the boy was willing to say whatever and willingly give them the contents of his pockets. Here is what he handed over to the principal. Be sure to study it because what you are looking upon is quickly becoming an epidemic amongst teens for several reasons:
Yes. That package says potpourri. Before discussing this issue with my husband, I would have told you that “Posh” was a word that closely resembled “classy” or was the name of the incredibly skinny spice girl who is married to that unbelievably genetically gifted soccer player, Mr. Beckham. (Don’t tell me you haven’t seen his Calvin Klein underwear ads. Oh girls, they are NOT to be missed!)
Parents it is essential that you educate yourself on all things potpourri. This “synthetic” marijuana, “posh” also goes by many other names like K2, spice, scary spice, Love Potion, Venom, Diablo, Mad Hatter, G-13, Cloud 9, Magic XXX, Klimax and Xotic. The scary thing for parents is that ANYONE can by these little packages that resemble potpourri in any corner gas station. It doesn’t show up on ANY drug test and smells more like cigarette smoke than marijuana. It is smoked like marijuana and produces a very strong high that is often coupled with hallucinations that rival LSD.
But smokers of this potpourri are also quickly finding out that the side effects can be dangerous, even deadly. They include headaches, vomiting, convulsions, seizures and paralysis. Sadly, in my husband’s school, 3 students have been hospitalized due to these serious side effects. For some it seems that the recovery will be long and slow.
After researching this drug, I couldn’t shake the feeling that we as parents can never let down our vigilance. It seems that just when we think we’ve got all those blocks in the teenage tower balanced so they won’t topple, the world places another block on while we’re not looking so that the whole structure begins to wobble. Parenting teens is hard enough without having to ALSO deal with substance abuse, especially a substance that can be so easily acquired.
So let me end this column with advice from the website theantidrug.com. Here’s what they say about keeping your children substance free:
“Conflict sometimes comes with the job of parenting, especially when you’re talking about touchy subjects such as drug use. Experts say that to create an environment that combines talking with action, you should:
- Know what your children are doing —their activities and how they spend their time
- Be involved in your kids’ lives
- Praise and reward good behavior
- Set limits with clear rules and consequences for breaking them
Of course, your kids might not like your keeping tabs on where they are and what they’re doing. It won’t be a democracy, and it shouldn’t be, according to many parent experts. In the end, it’s not pestering, it’s parenting.”
Advice that we should all pay attention to so that our children can lead a “posh” life in the truest sense of the word.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Logan has lived in Glens Falls, NY all her life. By day, she is an educator with 20 years experience, a mom to Aidan and Gannan, her two teenage boys, a new mommy to a beautiful daughter, Ila, and wife to the love of her life, Jeffrey. By night, weekends and any spare time she can find, Logan writes. She loves memoir and also adores writing essays about the challenges of parenthood. This year she started a parenting blog called A Muddled Mother, an honest place where mothers aren’t afraid to speak of the complications and difficulties that we all inevitably experience. Logan has been published in various children’s and parenting magazines including Today’s Motherhood, Eye on Education, Faces, and Appleseed.