Prom Night: Mind Your Own Business, Mom!

Headline of the Day:  World Class Spy Fails to Get the Goods

I wish I was James Bond equipped with all that spy gear.  A Vespa.  A tux.  A suave opening line, “Fisher… Logan Fisher.”  A phone in the sole of my shoe—oh wait, isn’t that Maxwell Smart?  Anyhoo… Being a spy is an essential occupation for a mother of a teenage boy.  Isn’t about time Steve Jobs invents an App for his iPhone that scans the deepest dark parts of the male adolescent brain and mines for the secrets that nosy moms need to know.  I’d pay ANY price for THAT App!

What has brought this on you ask?  Prom.  P-R-O-M.  It’s December.  The big month.  The month where teenage boys all over the country despite their pimples or bed head, despite the cracks in their still developing voices and their sudden interest in the Victoria’s Secret commercials, take a shaky uncertain dip into the dating pool and ask a girl… a real girl… to go to the prom.

So, dear readers, you must have questions.  Yes.  Lots of questions.  Probably some of you are asking yourself right now, “I wonder who Aidan is going with?”  Some of you are probably asking, “I wonder if Aidan has asked anyone yet.”  Even some others may be wondering, “Will Aidan even WANT to go to the prom.”  And these are all WONDERFUL questions.

WONDERFUL.  You’d think that wonderful questions would have equally wonderful answers.  Sadly, that-just-isn’t-the-case.

Aidan is a locked vault—a locked vault with a lost key.  (If anyone finds said key… there will be a hefty reward if it gets returned to me!)  I ask daily (much to his extreme frustration) about his plans or desire to go to the prom.  And every day it is the same thing… “None of your business mom.”  I’ve tried to reason with him claiming that if he’d just let me in on his thoughts about prom like who, where, when he’d ask, color of the dress, will he want a matching cummerbund… you know… the standard prom info, I’d stop asking.  I even promised that if he just would throw me a small bone, I stop talking about the prom all together.  We both paused and then chuckled nervously, knowing full well that that promise could never, would never stop me from trying to talk with my son about the important moments in his life. I am what he calls the nosiest, most annoying mother in the world.  And… well perhaps I am.  Hey, but tenacity is a good quality, right??

Last night I had a brain storm.  A full proof way (I thought) to get him to open up and tell me his prom plans, including his possible, if not already arranged date.  Bribery.  OH!  And food. Food always sweetens the deal. We went to his favorite restaurant.  I let him order whatever.  (“Aidan, you must be STARVING!  Go ahead and order WHATEVER you want.”) At the end of his meal, happily satisfied with a greasy burger and fries sitting in his gullet, I made my move.

“Aidan, your step-father and I were talking and we’d love to get you a limousine to take you to the prom.  I was even thinking that I could ask my friend to let you borrow her Spider convertible if you’d like.  Every boy should have a fancy ride to pick up his prom date.”

“Really?” he responded excitedly.  Butterflies instantly started fluttering in my stomach.  I had him!  YES!  “Remain calm.” I told myself.  Swallowing the glee that was pushing at my throat I said, “Yes.  Really.”

“Ummm.  I think I’d like to take the Spider.   Do you really think she’d let us borrow that hot car?”

“All we can do is ask.”  I said trying to hide my pleasure.  “If she says no, you can still pick out a limo that you’d like.  If you take a limo then you can have other couples go with you.  Usually girls like to travel in packs.  Who are the girls that are friends with your prom date?”   Victory was almost mine.  I was feeling smug, smart and full of confidence.  Finally… score one for mom.

“Mind your own business mom.  But nice try.”

Curses!  Foiled again!  Does anybody know Steve Jobs?


Logan Fisher

Logan has lived in Glens Falls, NY all her life. By day, she is an educator with 20 years experience, a mom to Aidan and Gannan, her two teenage boys, a new mommy to a beautiful daughter, Ila, and wife to the love of her life, Jeffrey. By night, weekends and any spare time she can find, Logan writes. She loves memoir and also adores writing essays about the challenges of parenthood. This year she started a parenting blog called A Muddled Mother, an honest place where mothers aren’t afraid to speak of the complications and difficulties that we all inevitably experience. Logan has been published in various children’s and parenting magazines including Today’s Motherhood, Eye on Education, Faces, and Appleseed.

4 Comments on “Prom Night: Mind Your Own Business, Mom!

  1. Leave it to his trusty aunt to do a little research for you…. hmm….

  2. Yikes! My son is already getting slightly hesitant about telling me about his day in second grade. I am not looking forward to the lack of communication. So much to look forward to! I grew up the oldest of five girls, so I am not sure if I am less scared of raising a teenage son or daughter.

  3. My experience as the mother of 2 boys is that you will not find out anything until the week before when all the good tuxes are rented, or the night before when you find out that a corsage was not ordered. BTW, the key is in the crevices of the couch that they are always sitting or lying on. A gremlin guards it. If you think prom is testing your investigative skills, try figuring out what colleges they will want to go see and/or apply to.
    But you’ll miss them when they leave home.

  4. Well, obviously this is all your fault. If you hadn’t raised such smart, independent, spy-resistant boys than this would never happen!! :-) Makes me laugh as I remember OUR prom–and how I am sure we never told our moms anything……

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